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In John Gottmans book, the Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, he talks about how we can nurture our relationships with our spouses through fondness and admiration for each other. The idea behind this, is to focus on the positives in your relationship and remember what you love about your spouse regardless of the trials and challenges that may arise. He suggests spending seven weeks following a series of daily positive thoughts as well as a simple task.
Some of the suggestions are brilliant. One example is thinking about a time where you've had some really good moments in your marriage. You are to choose one of those moments and take the time to write it down. Another is thinking about you and your spouse having common goals, then listing them out. One more I love is thinking about your spouse being your best friend. Then you are to think of a secret you've shared with them that has been kept between you.
I love the idea of taking the time each day to think of something specific that you love about your spouse or something that has brought you closer together. The idea is to think of these things and complete the task during the times where you may not be with your spouse. I think it would be fun to do this exercise together. Maybe you could each choose something earlier in the day and then in the evening you can share what you chose and what you learned. I think sharing experiences together can strengthen your relationship and create additional memories for you to look back on. I also think it can help you get to know your spouse better and even be used to "check in" and see if any positive changes need to be made in your relationship to ensure your success and happiness.
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